Parenting teens is hard work. When I was 22 years old, fresh out of Bible College, I lived in this dream world. I remembered my not long abandoned teen years like some dream sequence in a movie. In this dream, I was a perfect child. My parents never had to discipline me and I never … Continue reading FAQ | How can I help?
I never realized how hard it was to be a part of the Church as a single adult until I went through a divorce and became one. When I worked full-time on church staffs, I honestly never thought about our programming implications for singles. We programmed for families, marrieds, even seniors but never singles. Looking … Continue reading Singling Out
I have tons of friends. 420 on Facebook to be exact. I follow another 400 on Twitter and about 320 follow me. Of course if you eliminate the spammers, there is maybe 150... I have several close friends in other places that I text regularly and they text me. I occasionally talk on the phone, … Continue reading When virtual community is no longer enough…
I remember growing up in a neighborhood with few privacy fences. All the neighborhood kids knew each other and hung out together. The adults talked in the front yards, borrowed tools and helped each other with projects. I have a lot of great memories of that time. Today is a different time. I am not … Continue reading Privacy fences, personal space and community
Are you like me? By "like me" I mean, white. Are you like me? By "like me" I mean, have always gone to a mostly white church? Are you like me? By "like me" I mean, I'm no longer ok with it. What are we gonna do about the most segregated hour of the week?
I remember the first time I had a health club membership. I had my gym bag and my membership key tag on my key ring. I came in the front door with a little swagger. I was proud of my health club membership. I strolled to the desk and I scanned my key tag and … Continue reading Exclusive Party?
Small groups are messy. It's one thing for small group ministry leaders to know it and communicate, and yet another for the individual small group member to navigate it successfully. People's messy lives have the potential to bring conflict and frustration to a group if the leader doesn't help keep the group focused on what … Continue reading New Eyes